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A Personal Example of Using Transformation Prayer Ministry (TPM)
I usually apply the principles and begin the process of TPM when I have been “triggered” by something. It is when I believe that something or someone has made me get upset! Of course, it is usually the case that my own beliefs are making me upset, but I initially attribute the cause of my emotional reaction to the person or event that is in front of me.
My personal account is from a time I had walked into our kitchen to share something with my wife. She was on the phone with her sister. Since they routinely talk for as much as 30 minutes nearly every day, I didn’t think it was unreasonable to ask her to put her sister on hold for a minute so I could talk to her. Although the thing I wanted to discuss with my wife was not extremely urgent or important, I was emotionally triggered when my wife refused to interrupt her conversation to talk to me! Instead of putting her sister on hold, my wife waved me off and said “Not now, I’m busy talking to my sister.” That made me furious! My emotions went through the roof! From 1 – 10 my anger was a 9 or 10. I was so upset, I immediately left the room and walked out to the garage to keep myself from yelling and saying hurtful and disrespectful words. It took 20 or 30 minutes before I was calm enough to go back into the house.
While in the garage I began to mentor myself to try to regain the peace and joy that the Lord has promised each of us. I focused on the emotion that was triggered when my wife brushed me off by refusing to put her sister on hold and to give me her attention. Then I became aware of a childhood memory. There was an association in my mind between what happened with my wife and something that had happened when I had urgently wanted my mother’s attention when I was about 4 years old.
I don’t recall all of the details about what I wanted to tell my mom when I was 4. I think it had something to do with the rabbits we had in a hutch in our backyard. I ran into the house and tried to get mom’s attention by pulling on her dress and yelling “Mom! Mom!” She was holding a black phone to her ear. It was one of the really old fashioned cradle style phones with a black chord to the receiver. She brushed me away and said “Not now Richie, I’m busy talking to Winnie.” Winnie was our neighbor who my mom talked to nearly every day. I was crushed! I puckered up and began to cry and ran back outside. I felt alone and rejected. I felt unloved. I recall that it was a horribly painful experience.
As an adult, I had retreated to my garage to distance myself from my wife, just like I ran away from my mom when I was a child. As an adult, I had the skills to process my emotions by connecting the present with the past and identifying the beliefs that caused my emotional pain. In my garage, I began to lift up each of those childhood beliefs to the Lord.
The first childhood belief I lifted up to the Lord was the belief that my mother didn’t love me. She had refused to listen to my urgent plea for her attention! In my childhood mind I had reasoned that this meant that she did not love me! She chose to talk to our neighbor on the phone and brush me away. When I presented this to the Lord, what I sensed was that my mother really did love me, but that she had been insensitive to my needs when she brushed me away. I realized that I still needed to forgive her for being insensitive to me all those years ago, and I quickly forgave her. The truth that I received from the Lord was not the audible voice of God, but it was an inner revelation of truth to my spirit.
A slightly different childhood belief associated with that experience was the belief that when I was rejected I was all alone. The lord helped me know in my heart that He is with me and that He will never leave or forsake me.
Beliefs which are embedded in our minds during traumatic experiences are like splinters or thorns which continue to cause pain whenever a new experience connects us to the beliefs embedded in the previous experience. Receiving truth to change the painful belief relieves the pain and peace and joy are restored.
After receiving truth from the Lord in my garage I was calm and could go back in the house. My wife was still talking to her sister. I was sad and disappointed that she had not agreed to put her sister on hold and listen to what I wanted to tell her, but that was nothing compared to the rage and anger I had felt before. Her choice no longer made me feel and believe that I was unloved and alone.
A TPM mentor is simply someone who has studied the principles and purpose and the process of TPM enough to be able to lead others through the steps. When they have been triggered by people and experiences which connect them to painful beliefs, then they can be lead through the TPM process so their peace and joy can be restored. With enough study and experience anyone can apply the process in their own lives without a mentor and even begin to mentor others.
Meet Transformation Prayer Mentoring
My Background
My Background
My Background
With over 30 years of experience in the fields of psychology and counseling, I have learned a unique approach to coaching and mentoring. I hold a Master's degree in Psychology. I have attended multiple Transformation Prayer Ministry conferences and my wife and I have led a Transformation Prayer study group. I have used TPM to mentor an
With over 30 years of experience in the fields of psychology and counseling, I have learned a unique approach to coaching and mentoring. I hold a Master's degree in Psychology. I have attended multiple Transformation Prayer Ministry conferences and my wife and I have led a Transformation Prayer study group. I have used TPM to mentor and coach hundreds of clients. Ed Smith is the creator of Transformation Prayer Ministry. Ed and Joshua Smith have co-authored several books about TPM, which can be downloaded or purchased on their Transformation Prayer Ministry website. TPM mentors are simply Christians who are "developing and encouraging their brothers and sisters in Christ, equipping them and building them up" (Eph 4: 12). TPM mentors are not endorsed by or legally affiliated with Ed or Joshua Smith. I hold a Master's degree in Psychology from the University of Texas in El Paso. I am certified as a marriage communication instructor by the PREP program at the University of Colorado. In Texas, I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I look forward to working with you online.
Richard L. Ward, M.A., L.P.C., L.M.F.T.
My Approach
My Background
My Background
I offer a unique type of personal development consultation called Transformation Prayer Ministry. I mentor people to help them master the steps of identifying triggers which connect them to emotional experiences in their past. Since our emotions are produced by our own beliefs and interpretations, we can, with the Lord's help, change ou
I offer a unique type of personal development consultation called Transformation Prayer Ministry. I mentor people to help them master the steps of identifying triggers which connect them to emotional experiences in their past. Since our emotions are produced by our own beliefs and interpretations, we can, with the Lord's help, change our heart beliefs and reinterpret our life experiences. When people replace faulty beliefs with truth, they are transformed by the renewing of their minds. This is promised in John 8:32 and in Romans 12:2.
My Services
My Background
My Services
I offer online Transformation Prayer Mentoring using Zoom, Facetime and Google Meet. I only work with clients on-line. Fees are charged for individual services. No in-person or face-to-face sessions are available. On-line video telehealth services are more cost-effective and can be offered to help more people.
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